Childless in the land of the children
and Mrs. Smith from England, lived for many years without their own offspring in Paraguay before they decided to do something about her childlessness. Although they received a large number of shady deals, they took the long and complicated legal way to adoption to himself. Young children
feet run an almost everywhere in Paraguay on the road. Through the windows of the cars look to a brown eyes of children who want to beg for a couple of Guarani, on the bus to try children's hands, soft drinks for sale, in part three of the children piled on the bikes of their parents. These images affect particularly those strong, which may itself have any children. Smith, the couple that decided many years ago to leave England for the services of the Anglican Church to make its social contribution to society, belonged to it. Numerous offers of pregnant they reached Paraguayan women who were glad for a bit of money ready to be registered on the birth certificate the name of Mrs. Smith as a mother. An illegal adoption, however, came for the Christian couple in no case in question. In November 2000 she presented so before the Adoption Center on the Avda. Mariscal Lopez, the first time the request to be allowed to adopt children legally. Although a lot of paperwork filed and numerous discussions with psychological experts had to be done, the Smiths felt the approval process easy. "That which was then moved to very protracted, and often we were in complete uncertainty about where we are in the adoption process were what was to come and how long we would have to wait," said Mr Smith understood. They had made no specific claims in its application, all boys or girls under 3 years were welcome to them as long as the house was only finally brought to life, says the couple. Almost a year after application received In August 2001 they finally eagerly awaited phone call: "We have a 9 month old girl for you and just have to clear up a few small details," was the announcement of the Adoption Center. For sheer excitement and happiness were in the next 2 weeks that followed, no further news, already bought the first baby clothes in pink from family members. When the Smiths were full of anticipation of a daughter then invited to an event, the couple were shown the photos of a male sibling pairs, 9 months and 2 years 10 months old. After this surprising turn left to them 10 minutes to think about, whether they know the brothers personally wanted. "After we had seen the children, they let us out 24 hours to consider whether we wanted to move forward in the adoption process." The couple said, however, immediately. After numerous visits to the nursery it was finally time: The two boys were allowed to be after a week take home. In the case of the couple's siblings, the adoption center was very crowded that they were finally integrated into a family, even though the release for adoption had not yet taken place. After the birth mother is not in the situation was to keep the children they were brought after a stay in the nursery with her grandmother. After many efforts, however, had the See the old lady must ensure that their advanced age and the social situation is not necessarily offered the best conditions for the upbringing of children. There must be a hard blow, especially for the older of the two children have been his, as they had after the second attempt back to the nursery. These memories had to be in the new environment of loving family Smith processed only once. Only in December 2002 the final adoption. "This time was very difficult for us, we always lived in the concern that the biological parents still could make demands on the children, we also were allowed to leave the country with the children until the judge is saying was, "Mr Smith is understood. The final verdict ran out so well for so long because of the smaller of the two boys had not even been officially registered and given a name, said Mrs. Smith. Once again the difficulties encountered by the Smiths, than to their family Christmas together in England wanted to visit with the children. The children who maintained their Paraguayan nationality despite adoption process needed a visa to vacation with the grandparents can. On entry to their home country, the Smiths were taken by officials to cross-examine, so to exclude the English authorities could that child trafficking was run or the Smiths, together with the children just wanted to drop it into the social network in the country.
Despite all the problems, the Smiths decided in July 2004, again to take the lengthy process of adoption, up, this time hoping to get a girl who would pass them as young as possible. In November 2005 she met a 16-month-old girl know about his past, the Adoption Center was absolutely nothing known. "Although no members were involved, the judges are still left a lot of time with the release for adoption," says Mrs Smith. She regrets very much that they had the little girl not much earlier to eat. In September 2006 the judge issued the long-hoped-for award and gave custody to the Smiths. "So many times we had the court in Luque visit, see how they out-fished our case of huge mountains of paper to explain only to find that it always was still no news on the case." Further, Mr Smith that her attorney, the verdict print on his printer had to be submitted to the judge, because the authority was not even equipped with the appropriate skills and equipment. "The experience we have gained from our long time of waiting and hoping and working with children, who had to go through a lot before they find a loving family, we wanted like to pass on, "said Mr Smith. Therefore they have supported the Anglican Church here to open the small nursery "Esperanza". Here as elsewhere, without serving the 30 children with the essentials, but only 5 children get there, the love and care that is so important for early development. "We note the difference that makes a loving individual care very much to our children," says the couple. The little girl was handed over, in contrast to her two siblings at a very early stage of a foster family and spent most of his time in a loving family environment, which leaves no negative traces left.
to the Smiths is now a more severe test, the turbulent and sometimes criminal past adoption of Paraguay is not of Great Britain adoption recognized as legal. In their home country, the Smiths must undergo numerous tests again to officially there as well to get custody. Since they have decided to return back to England, the adoption, this time by English authorities, again rolled up completely. However, they were promised that this should normally take less than a year since they already live so long with the children. They have no other choice than to continue waiting and hoping that the whole process will soon be finalized. The waiting time is sweetened by the Smiths, but their three dark-skinned Paraguayan children who speak fluent English and are well prepared to live in Europe.